It’s all about the power, the play and the giving…

As many of you know, I like to be in charge as much as I like to turn control completely over to my lover.
Why both?
They are both ways of heightening the erotic sense of power. I love that shivery, nerve-tingling sense of making a man so hungry for me that nothing exists in that moment except me. I am both the goddess and the supplicant. I am everything at that moment. Just as my lover is the entire focus of my existence. It is power and it is powerful.

They are both ways of sensually playing with another person. I like different things, different ways on different days. Black may be my favorite colour. Today. Tomorrow it may be red. Next week I may think the world would be a much better place if it was liberally splashed in chartreuse. I’m silly enough that I will sing and dance in the rain in the spring and not give a flying fuck what anyone thinks. And I’m serious enough that I hold a hurting friend in my arms for hours, knowing I can’t do anything but be there. Life is full of extremes. It’s full of passion. And being open and flexible is the very best way to keep from ever slipping into the foggy grey of soul-sucking mundaneness.

They are both ways of giving of yourself to another. I do not ever, ever, ever have real life sex with someone unless I feel I can trust them. (That I am foolish with my trust is a whole ‘nuther topic.) I’ve done the one night stand thingy when I was younger and sorry – ewwww. It’s like eating those puffy rice cakes – totally empty and pointless. And bland really. In my experience. It’s much more fun, much more electrifying… oh so much more satisfying to explore and play with someone that you have built some connection with. And to treat the gift of giving yourself to another as the sacred act it is. Which doesn’t mean ya get all holy stoopid about it. Please. It means you revel in it completely and seek to make the sexual connection one that is just as special to the person you are planning to fuck the brains out of. Sometimes that person will need me to be demanding, bratty. Sometimes submissive. Sometimes dominating and controlling. Sometimes cuddly and sweet. Sometimes… I need those things: to be overpowered, to be submitted to, to be cherished. It’s all beautiful. It’s all a gift that goes both ways.

Because it’s all about the power, the play and the giving…and connecting with another person in the most intimate way possible.

Do you have any preferences in how you play? Do you like to keep it vanilla, kinky, mix it up, be the dominant always or the submissive always? See, the nice thing is - it's all good. Or it should be if you're doing it right. (that was a joke. duh.)